Feeling heard and understood gives you hope right from the get-go, is life-changing, and improves your quality of life because you start to make decisions that are more aligned with your authentic self. None of that is possible, though, without a solid therapeutic alliance and relationship. Simply put, you need to like your therapist, feel comfortable opening up to them, and there needs to be a certain amount of rapport and trust built in order to dive into the more difficult therapeutic work of trauma resolution. Our therapists at Resilience Counseling & Wellness are carefully vetted for their clinical skills but also know how important the therapeutic relationship is to your success. We prioritize that relationship and that bond, as it’s the cornerstone of any meaningful therapeutic work. We are committed to our craft and our work with you, and this directly translates to more change and growth for you when you feel safe, heard, supported, and valued.
The therapist’s job is to set the tone for the therapeutic work by providing a safe and non-judgmental space, while also bringing in some well-timed humor or laughter so it doesn’t always feel heavy and upsetting. Therapy is hard work, but that doesn’t mean you can’t laugh sometimes or talk about positive things that are going well. In fact, talking about negative stuff the entire time is actually de-stabilizing for a traumatized nervous system, so at the beginning of the therapeutic journey it’s common to do some important stabilizing work to prepare you for the deeper trauma processing. This type of positive resourcing is vital to help stabilize someone who has suffered from some type of traumatic stress.